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It was the interview heard around the world. When Meghan Markle and Prince Harry sat down with Oprah in March, viewers were expecting some shocking reveals, but no one was prepared for just how real the conversation got.
Meghan and Harry described living in an atmosphere of bad vibes where they felt completely unsupported and gaslit. Meghan explained that she reached such a low point that she was worried she would harm herself - and that even then, the royal family’s team refused to get her help. Even today, with that experience far into the rearview, the royal family heartbreakingly continues to deny Meghan and Harry emotional support or validation.
While most of us will never experience living in a dysfunctional royal family, there are lessons that everyone can take from the couple’s experience. Bad vibes - distrust, gaslighting, bullying, and negative treatment - can have serious consequences on mental health. All of us recognize the feeling of someone making a painful remark to us without realizing the impact of what they’re saying. Everyone knows how it feels to be mistreated by someone who is supposed to be trustworthy. In situations like that, having a support system is key - and that support does not necessarily need to come from your immediate family. Just like RuPaul says when he talks about having a soul family, you can create your own type of family with the warmest and most supportive people in your life.
If you’re in a situation anything like Meghan’s, please remember: you matter. Your feelings matter, and they are valid. You are so worthy of love and support, and if your family denies that to you, that does not mean there’s anything wrong with you. In fact, quite the opposite.
Keep in mind that you are allowed to set boundaries with anyone you want to. As scary as it can be to first create and enforce those boundaries, they can make all the difference to your mental health. There is no law that says you have to continue a dynamic with someone that hurts you. And if they don’t have enough respect for boundaries to cut it, there is nothing wrong with fully stepping away from a relationship, either temporarily or indefinitely. It does not mean you don’t love the person - it means they cannot give you the love and compassion you need back. And you have every right to love them from afar until they develop the tools to do so.
While you’re working on protecting your mental health, establishing boundaries, and taking care of yourself, you might want to keep a few crystals on hand. These gorgeous gems can help protect your vibes.
Black tourmaline is known as a stone of protection and safety, and is believed to help protect your energy from whatever bad vibes you come up against throughout your day. It’s said to offer sense of protection, safety, and grounding - so you can see through gaslighting and create a safe bubble for yourself.
This potent stone is believed to remove pretense and distraction to get down to the true energetic meaning of a situation. In the healing arts, quartz is often paired with other crystals to amplify their intensity.
Amethyst is believed to have calming capabilities to help manage stress. Soothing your anxious mind can keep your energy strong and less vulnerable to negativity from others. This purple stone is a perfect companion.
In ancient healing modalities, noble shungite is said to protect and calm those who carry it. It’s a great way to keep negativity at bay.
Chalcedony is known in the healing arts as a stone of harmony. It is believed to promote goodwill, connection, and support while dissolving negative thoughts.
No matter what you’re going through right now, know this: these hard times will pass. You will find your soul family and the support system you deserve. They’re out their waiting for you, and they have more joy to share than you can even imagine!
If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is here for you, 24 hours a day: 800-273-8255.
